This letter was sent to Kaya Fm and it was answered!
Hi guys
What am I doing wrong? Okay, I'm tired of beating around the bush. I'm a beautiful (spectacularly beautiful) 25 year old girl. I'm articulate and classy. I'm not from Sandhurst. I'm looking to get married to a guy who makes at least half a million a year. I know how that sounds, but keep in mind that a quarter of a million a year is middle class in Sandton, so I don't think I'm overreaching at all.
Are there any guys who make R500K or more here? Any wives? Could you send me some tips? I dated a businessman who makes on average around R200k -R250k. But that's where I seem to hit a roadblock. R250 000 won't get me to Morningside Manor. I know a woman in my spinning class who was married to an investment banker and lives in Parkmore, and she's not as pretty as I am, nor is she a great genius. So what is she doing right?
How do I get to her level?
Here are my questions specifically:
* Where do you single rich men hang out? Give me specifics- bars, restaurants, gyms?
* What are you looking for in a mate? Be honest guys, you won't hurt my feelings
* Is there an age range I should be targeting (I'm 25)?
* Why are some of the women living lavish lifestyles on the upper North so plain? I've seen really 'plain jane' boring types who have nothing to offer married to incredibly wealthy guys. I've seen drop dead gorgeous girls in bars in Rosebank. What's the story there?
* Jobs I should look out for? Everyone knows - lawyer, investment banker, doctor. How much do those guys really make? And where do they hang out?
*Where do the hedge fund guys hang out?
* How you decide marriage vs. just a girlfriend? I am looking for
MARRIAGE
ONLY
Please hold your insults - I'm putting myself out there in an honest
way.
Most beautiful women are superficial; at least I'm being up front about
it. I wouldn't be searching for these kind of guys if I wasn't able to
match them - in looks, culture, sophistication, and keeping a nice home
and hearth.
Koki
THE ANSWER
Dear Koki
I read your posting with great interest and have thought meaningfully about your dilemma. I offer the following analysis of your predicament.
Firstly, I'm not wasting your time, I qualify as a guy who fits your bill; that is I make more than R500k per year. That said here's how I see it.
Your offer, from the prospective of a guy like me, is plain and simple a crappy business deal.
Here's why.
Cutting through all the B.S., what you suggest is a simple trade: you bring your looks to the party and I bring my money. Fine, simple. But there's the rub, your looks will fade and my money will likely continue into perpetuity...in fact, it is very likely that my income increases but it is an absolute certainty that you won't be getting any more beautiful!
So, in economic terms you are a depreciating asset and I am an earning asset. Not only are you a depreciating asset, your depreciation accelerates!
Let me explain, you're 25 now and will likely stay pretty hot for the next 5 years, but less so each year. Then the fade begins in earnest. By 35 stick a fork in you!
So in JSE terms, we would call you a trading position, not a buy and hold...hence the rub...marriage. It doesn't make good business sense to "buy you" (which is what you're asking) so I would rather lease/rent you.
In case you think I'm being cruel, I would say the following. If my money were to go away, so would you, so when your beauty fades I need a way out too. It's as simple as that. So a deal that makes sense is dating, not marriage.
Separately, I was taught early in my career about efficient markets. So, wonder why a girl as "articulate, classy and spectacularly beautiful" as you, has been unable to find a sugar daddy. I find it hard to believe that if you are as gorgeous as you say you are, and that the R500k hasn't found you, if not only for a tryout.
By the way, you could always find a way to make your own money and then we wouldn't need to have this difficult conversation.
I hope this is helpful, and if you want to enter into some sort of lease, let me know.
Michael
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